Glastonbury Chamber's Women's Professional Forum highlighted by speaker Brett Blumenthal
By Steve Smith - Staff Writer
Glastonbury - posted Fri., Mar. 29, 2013
More than 100 women attended the Glastonbury Chamber of Commerce's sixth annual Professional Women's Forum on March 28. The event started off with a networking session and a chance to visit vendors' booths, as well as the opportunity for a mini-makeover.
Paul and Jennifer Misciagno, owners of Strand Salon, provided free trims for bangs, and Michelle Watson of ZenBodhi provided chair massages. Afterwards, the rejuvenated could see their new looks via the photo booth by JFH Photobooths, LLC.
The highlight of the event was its guest speaker, self-help author Brett Blumenthal, who spoke about how a person can get “unstuck” and make postive changes. Blumenthal explored some of the situations that cause someone to realize they are stuck in a rut and used many examples of real people to illustrate her points. Then she talked about the major obstacles that keep people from making the changes they need to make at those times, including fear, perfectionism and self-limiting beliefs.
She told the story of a young man named Johnny, whose father was the type who when Johnny got an 'A' in school would ask why he didn't get an 'A-plus.' Johnny got into MIT, but kept changing his major, reasoning that he could not get a high-paying job if he kept “failing.” However, an advisor noticed that his lowest grade was a 'B.' The counselor pointed out his limiting beliefs, took an interest in Johnny, and helped him stay in aeronautical engineering. Johnny went on to become an executive at Boeing.
“If he let his limiting beliefs [guide him],” she said, “he would have been doing a desk job somewhere.”
Wanting a change, on an emotional level, she said, is the most powerful thing that will cause someone to seek a change, she said. “When it comes to igniting passion, igniting your inner ability to motivate continually for the long haul to make a transformation in your own life, it's the emotional [desire],” she said, adding that the contrary is also true.
“If you don't want to make a change, please don't make it,” she said. “Because, you're going to feel bad about yourself if you don't succeed. A lot of us are trying to make changes that are not authentic to us, and we're trying to make them for everybody else.”
Blumenthal said that what's key to overcoming those obstacles is to have a good sense of oneself. “The more we understand about ourselves,” she said, “and the more we get to the root of the things we feel and think, the more we're going to be able to tackle the obstacles that we face.”
She said that really taking the time to know one's own values is key. “When we know what our values are, everything we think, and everything we do is based on this foundation of our values,” she said. “If we know that family is one of the most important things in our life, when we're faced with a decision between family and something else, we know that family is going to win. We're going to feel good about it, because we made the decision that's true to who we are. Once you really understand who you are, then the rest falls into place.”
Chamber President Mary Ellen Dombrowski said the event was very successful, and it was clear that the crowd liked what Blumenthal had to say. “I thought she was very practical, very sensible, and very basic, and I loved that she spoke in illustrations,” Dombrowski said. “It was something that everyone could identify with. You could hear a pin drop. The audience was very attentive.”