Enfield resident Bill Corbett is the author of the book , “ Love , Limits , & Lessons , ” which is a parenting guide designed to help readers raise cooperative children . Corbett also travels around the country teaching a parenting class . His teachings focus on balancing the home , creating structure for children and allowing parents to learn why their child misbehaves .

Corbett based his book and class on methodology developed by two psychologists , Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikers , who believed that a child needs a place in the home and a parent needs to learn how to read a child’s behavior .

“ A child communicates through their behavior , ” said Corbett , “ When a child feels like they have a place , they feel like they’re a member of the team , there’s less need for them to act out and misbehave because they’re getting their needs met . Everyone wants to feel like they belong somewhere . ”

Another important component of Corbett’s methods for raising cooperative kids is understanding how to be firm and loving . He stressed that it’s important for parents to set boundaries , be firm and stay consistent and to give children accountability rather than doing too much for them . Also , having structure in the home is key . “ Parents have difficulty creating structure , ” said Corbett . According to him , many parents may feel guilty because they don’t have the opportunity to spend a lot of time with their kids because of work and other outside responsibilities , therefore when it comes to parenting , they tend to give in to their kids more and lose their ability to be firm .

Not only does Corbett work with parents , but he is also making his way into the classroom . He has a new program coming out soon which he developed in hopes of helping teachers with their students’ behavior . Because teachers handle a much larger group of children , there are different ways of communicating with them and getting them to respond and behave .

One interesting area that Corbett explores in the world of raising children is what causes kids to misbehave in the first place . One reason , he explains , goes back to the need for communication . Another reason is because the child feels disconnected from their parents , “ It’s no different for us , as adults . If youhave somebody close to youin yourlife , and youcan tell that they are so distant and they’re busy , sometimes youjust want to grab them by the arm and say , ‘ Hey ! Pay attention to me ! ’ If children feel disconnected , that’s when they’re going to act out , ” said Corbett .

Corbett has lived in Enfield for two yearswith his wife , Elizabeth . He has three grown children and two grandchildren . He is the oldest of eight children . He began his research in the area of children and parenting around 1990 , when his eldest daughter was 10 yearsold . He then took college courses in Early Childhood Studies and developed his own course , which he uses today to teach parents . Corbett taught his first course in 1995 to a small group in North Hampton , Mass . He now travels all over the country teaching courses and training others to teach it , as well . He will be in Enfield on Oct . 15 . The parenting course is already filled , due to his growing national popularity . If there are any questions about Bill Corbett and his business , he welcomes visitors to his Web site , www . CooperativeKids . com .